Episode 43: The Quitter’s Episode, Listening to Your Intuition

April 13, 2016
Introduction
  • Week #13 is here! The home stretch is in sight.
  • I forgot to announce the contest, but please, over the next few weeks, leave me a review in iTunes and I’ll donate $10 for every donation to the Jed Foundation and Active Minds. For more info listen the beginning of episode 42, or look for a Facebook post about it this week.
Quick tip
  • Make a list of what you have left to accomplish for each class.
  • Now look at your calendar.
  • Begin to fit the pieces in.
 
Topic of the day from r/college
Today’s Topic: 
  • Returning to PVLAS (Passion, Value, Leverage, Accountability, Sustainability) which is conscious decision making process for evaluating ideas/plans, and balancing that with your gut intuition (subconscious).
  • I believe you should listen and trust your intuition, especially when you know it’s coming from a well-meaning place (i.e. not rooted in trauma). It should factor into your decision making than it probably is, but at the same time, not rule it.
  • The dignity of failure, and what you can learn through experience vs. observation only
  • It’s okay to quit (despite what others tell you) when something doesn’t feel right, but it helps to have that feeling “honed” through mindfulness and practicing good self-awareness (biggest takeaway from the #AskGaryVee book). Gary talks about wishing he knew how to develop self-awareness. I have some ideas about it but want to look into it further before discussing on the show. Self-awareness has been huge for me lately, but has been important in the past as well.
  • My own personal experiences
    • Standing on the bus stop
    • Quitting swim club
    • Taking the Myer’s Briggs Type Indicator – http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/
    • Knowing ex-girlfriend wasn’t “the one”
    • Making a large purchase
    • Sobriety
    • My failures in gardening & the stock market
    • Getting my video editing done
Intuition (N) – taken from www.myersbriggs.org
Paying the most attention to impressions or the meaning and patterns of the information I get. I would rather learn by thinking a problem through than by hands-on experience. I’m interested in new things and what might be possible, so that I think more about the future than the past. I like to work with symbols or abstract theories, even if I don’t know how I will use them. I remember events more as an impression of what it was like than as actual facts or details of what happened.
The opposite end of the Intuition scale (forgot this in the podcast) is Sensing.
Home Exercise
Quit something you know in your heart you need to quit. If you can’t do it today, write down what you want to quit, how you think you can do it, and store it somewhere safe to return to later. This is not Derek telling you to quit something, but rather I’m giving you permission to listen to your heart and gut, especially if you’ve noticed in the past that doing so has been the right decision.
Previous Week’s Home Exercises
Week 1: Set a goal and think about it considering my 5 Factors (Passion, Value, Leverage, Accountability, Sustainability), and areas where you may need to pay special attention to (Passion).
Week 2: Think about what you need for your happiness and well-being. Consider what happiness achieving your goal will bring you. Write down your goal, and why you want it (Accountability).
Week 3: Pick one thing Zack and I talked about in the interview that will help you in reaching your goal, block out space in your calendar this week to do that one thing, and do it (Sustainability).
Week 4: Examine lack of progress more closely if needed, look at your life’s defaults through an honest lens (Value).
Week 5: Try out one of the note-taking suggestions/tips talked about in the episode in one of your classes over the next week (Accountability).
Week 6: Complete a study plan for the one midterm that is currently stressing you the most. If your goal does not relate to school, take a step back, see how you’re progressing, and re-evaluate your To-Do list (Accountability).
Week 7: Consider your “brand.” Think about how your brand could impact you as a potential employee down the road. If you are not in a position to start branding yourself now, at least write down your personal brand idea and file it somewhere you won’t forget it (Passion).
Week 8: If you’re struggling to achieve your goal, confirm you are truly in the preparation/action stage when it comes to the goal you set in the beginning of the semester (Sustainability).
Week 9: Think back to a time in your life when you persevered and succeeded. It could be a memory from a long time ago, or a recent event, but think about your own personal qualities and what you showed to yourself and others when making that achievement. Write about it if you can. What can you use from that experience to propel you closer to your current goal (Leverage)?
Week 10: Now that you are 2/3 through the semester, stand up and take a 30,000 foot view of your goal, the progress you’ve made so far, how much you have left to go, and if you need to make any changes in the direction you’re headed (Accountability).
Week 11: Talk to somebody about, or ask someone for advice about your goal.  The person you ask should know more about your goal topic than you do. Take a risk, ask someone you’re slightly intimidated by, you’d be surprised who might respond with some great words of wisdom (Passion).
Week 12: Thank a support in your life that’s been there for you (Value).
Housekeeping
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